How to deal with my family guilt tripping me?

There is no reason you can't ask them to wait until you have settled into your new home ,before they visit.They should understand that you would rather they see your home when your ready,and have the room set up for them to stay in.When you are settled and have a chance to get to know the city you now live in,you will be able to show them around,and thier trip will be much better.Ask them to be patient and respect your wish to have time to get settled then,you'll be more than happy to have them visit.